In Hinduism, Shiva is a deity who represents transformation. Through destruction and restoration, Shiva reminds us that endings are beginnings, and that our world is constantly undergoing a cycle of birth, death and rebirth.
Every food I choose to eat helps me become more conscious of how it either moves me forward to my fab weight or backward to my flab weight.
Stop allowing yourself to focus on depressing life circumstances – including focusing on being depressed about your weight. All this negative focus will only lead you to feeling bummed and wanting to pig out. Instead, consciously focus on happy life circumstances you enjoy doing, and create more of them!
During difficult times, it's best to cut down on sweets like cookies, cake and candy. Satisfy your sweet tooth with fruit to help prevent blood sugar dips and spikes.
I recognized that I needed to re-train my brain to stop eating like I wanted to punish myself or punish someone else. I needed to re-learn how to eat like I loved myself, and want to nourish and support myself.
Are you used to entertaining everyone with your tales of drama and conflict? Do you get attention and feel important every time you complain about how awful this man is? Stop settling for attention for the negative stuff in your life.
I believe you can never fail in life or love. You just produce results. It's up to you how you interpret those results.
If you feel sick and tired of how things are in your life, chances are it's because you're making yourself sick and tired – by engaging in too many energy leaking things.
Not only are police officers often taken for granted, many people are highly vocal about their dislike for cops.
You must remind yourself: The #1 reason to merge your life with a man is that he makes you feel happier – not more anxious and depressed.
I'm a big believer in the power of visualizations. And so are neuroscientists. Numerous studies have proven how merely imagining positive circumstances sends blood flowing from negative brain regions to positive ones.
Since I began my practice of Forgiveness Therapy, it's now instinctual for me to choose to eat like I love myself – instead of eating like I wanted to punish myself. Plus I've not only lost weight, I've lost the anger and anxiety I was feeling, and so I feel happier and calmer within.
Each day, you can awake and focus on small, easy goals you can accomplish in the short term – goals that, over time, will lead you to your long-term goal.
If you're a good choice maker, you can choose the best emotional responses and choose the best new life paths, forward and upward.
Basically, it's in your best mental interest to release your anger so you can see the world more clearly around you and seek better solutions for finding the happy, love-filled life you desire and deserve.
Altruism raises your mood because it raises your self-esteem, which increases happiness. Plus, giving to others gets you outside of yourself and distracts you from your problems.
Basically, discipline, effort, patience and courage are hugely important core values for kids to grow up embracing.
The more you believe that you deserve healthy love, the more you will conquer and attract.
Imagine feeling like every kiss goodbye to your loved ones each day might be your last kiss. Police officers and their families feel this way every single day.
Take the time today to understand your contribution to any bad event you've just been through.
When you feel bad on the inside, you wind up wanting to do things to make others feel bad. In contrast, when you feel happy on the inside, you want to do things to make others feel happy.
Is an out-of-control life challenge making you feel 'out of control' over your entire life? If so, stop lying around doing nothing. Stop sleeping late. Stop watching too much TV. Start recognizing that this lack of a disciplined schedule will only increase your feelings of being out of control of your life.
I believe that often people even stay in bad relationships longer than they should because the fear of the pain of dating is scarier than the pain of a bad relationship!
If you're human, you've had phases in your life when things are in flux.
Over time, we amass limiting beliefs about how life supposedly is – beliefs that are not valid. Then we allow these limiting beliefs to stop us from fully living our happiest lives.
I admit that when challenging times first surface, it's not first instinct to do a happy dance. But when you take time to pause and add insight to injury, you will immediately start to feel empowered to make those majorly needed life shifts.
If you want to love your life more, you can begin by living and loving more of it – by zestfully living and loving every teeny-tiny, gorgeously-detailed minutiae moment!
I believe we are our own inner hand – the godly power resides within each of us to create the lives we desire – no matter what the challenges!
Numerous studies have shown how when one person in a romantic coupling gets depressed, the other becomes more depressed.
Have you recently been through a challenge, disappointment, break up or disloyalty with somebody in your life? If so, it's important after you've been hurt, to take some time to think like a lion tamer about your pain, so you can tame the possibility of more negativity coming back to bite you again!
When you follow your heart's calling, you wind up becoming your most powerful self. You don't need to take power from others if you can tap into your own inner power.
I describe a soulmate as a 'soul-nurturing mate' – someone who nurtures your soul – thereby promoting insight and growth.
Do activities you're passionate about – which make your heart and soul feel perky – including things like working out, cooking, painting, writing, yoga, hiking, walking, swimming, being in nature, being around art, or reading inspiring books.
Breaking up is hard to do… so it's essential to keep getting wiser – and wiser – about what healthy love is all about.
You're not looking for perfection in your partner. Perfection is all about the ego. With soulmate love, you know that true love is what happens when disappointment sets in – and you're willing to deal maturely with these disappointments.
Don't try to convince your partner you are right. Instead of trying to win arguments, try to have a winning relationship!
I'm lucky I live near Whole Foods… so if I'm hungry, I can walk in there and grab something yummy… already made… or make it myself. I love to cook. I make a killer marinara sauce.
I want my son to become aware that he is in charge of the choices he makes, and it's good to make thoughtful, good choices.
When it comes right down to it, whatever business you're in, you're in the people business. After all, people prefer to do business with people and companies they find likeable.
If you ever want to tame your inner demons, you must consciously choose never to become too attached to any particular life plan – and always remain open to the idea that there might be an even better life plan for you.
When you have a 'solution thinking mindset' – and choose to focus 80% of your thoughts/words on solutions – you will not only be heading more speedily to long-term success, but you will immediately feel better in the moment.
Our built-in human system for mimicry explains why we humans can transfer our good and bad moods to each other – if we aren't careful!
Wherever there's an all-encompassing 'always,' 'all' or 'never' in your life, it's a sign that your mischievous subconscious is setting you up for failure by consistently leading you back toward these repeat performances.
I've come to realize I'm more spiritual than I am religious. What I mean by this: As far as praying to God goes, I'm more about looking inside for inner guidance – tapping into our own abundantly powerful inner resources – which, I suppose, is where some might say God does indeed reside.
Your subconscious's goal is to recreate unresolved childhood issues and then hopefully mend them.
You know you're living with the habit of zest if you purposefully choose the scenic route to wherever you are going. Or you choose clothing because you love the texture of the fabric. Or you pick a shampoo or cleaning product because you love the smell – smell being just as important to you as how the product works.
All my life, my immediate response to emotional pain has been to make jokes. Lots of jokes.
When you feel stuck in a hard time, jump-start a pro-change attitude by letting go of possessions that no longer work for you – like old clothes and old shoes.
The best things in life are often waiting for you at the exit ramp of your comfort zone.
Watching TV produces low levels of satisfaction because it doesn't challenge you. Instead, do something that raises your self-esteem. Tap into your 'signature strengths' – things you're good at or passionate about.
When you start to prioritize hiring likable people within your organization, these likable people will attract other likable people.
I firmly believe caretaking the soul is incredibly important for happiness.
Nothing in your past is in your present making you do anything you don't choose to do. You are not your past history! You are not your past failures! You are not how others have at one time treated you! You are only who you are and what you do now in this moment.
The grass is always greener on the other side – until you get there and see it's AstroTurf. Symbols are never reality. Someone might have amassed material success and fame, but that doesn't mean they're happy. So, don't go judging a person's life by the cover.
Religious people are simply following major core practices of happy people. For example, one benefits from the guaranteed social support that can be found in a church, synagogue, or mosque.
I believe much of the pain of a breakup comes from having a life plan that you have fallen in love with. When it does not work out, you become angry that you now have to pursue a new life plan.
Volunteering is a great way to look outside your own problems. Giving back to makes you happier by both giving you a sense of purpose and helping to put your problems in perspective.
Personally, I believe people who have a lots of memories are people who are living with zest.
Often, overeating is a way to punish yourself for the anger and resentment you're feeling – either at yourself or someone else.
I'm a huge fan of meditation. I know lots of people assume meditation to be some Buddhist mumbo-jumbo, but it's been scientifically documented to create therapeutic changes in the brain.
Personally, I know how challenging it can be to find free time in today's uber-busy, espresso-chugging world to tend to our spirits, to nourish our souls.
In general, being likeable is more about being interested – rather than interesting. Indeed, a good way to convince someone that you are an awesome conversationalist is to simply shut up and let the other person talk.
I'm a big believer that your life is basically a sum of all the choices you make. The better your choices, the better opportunity to lead a happy life.
It's not enough to just mildly want what you want. You must wildly want what you want. Nobody ever got their greatest wishes by being wishy-washy. You need to put extreme energy into your power of intention to win what you wanna win.
Chances are you're using overeating as a way to escape yourself. It's an attempt not to feel or think about what you really need to feel and face.
Instead of asking God to remove our problems so that our lives might be happy, we must purposefully try to learn as much as we can – and thereby become happier due to our insights and growth.
Indeed, many of life's most fun and pleasurable choices come with potential dangers. It's important for my son to grow up recognizing that what might appear exciting or inviting at first glance could also have eventual negative consequences.
The more you stay with and/or complain about a toxic person, the more you're merely delaying doing the important inner work you need to do – to heal your wounds, expand your limiting beliefs, and show yourself far more love and respect.
If your partner is consistently unhappy, it won't matter if they're incredibly sexy, wildly funny, impressively successful, adorably charismatic – your relationship will be weighed down under the heaviness of their moods.
When you're warm and approachable, you don't have to go up and talk non-stop to someone in a social situation. You just have to be open to the conversations you're already having – and warm and receptive to the people you're meeting.
Dumped? Fired? Scorned? Humiliated? Totally pissed off? If so, I've got great news! You might be on your way to living your best life ever – if you consciously choose to channel this pain into fuel – and use it to motivate yourself to become your highest potential self!
If you want to lose weight, you must make sure your appetite for life is far bigger than your appetite for mere food.
Insight enables you make sure you don't allow negative beliefs to get permanently set in your thinking – just the same way you wouldn't want fractured bones to be permanently set into place.
A soulmate is someone who you could spend a great deal of time with just sitting on a sofa and feel happy. You don't need fanfare. You don't need to go out to expensive restaurants.
Remember: You are the common denominator in all your relationship problems. Wherever you go, your pesky repeated issues go – until you shed a blazing light of insight upon them.
It's so essential to happiness to speak your truth out loud – because this sharing of your core pain is what creates a necessary healing shift – from negative beliefs about the world – to positive beliefs – and frees you up to be able to fully view life with meaning, purpose and connection with others.
The best things in life are often waiting for you at the exit ramp of your comfort zone.
Power might feel tasty and good in the moment, but it will never be satisfying, never fill you up. Yep, no matter how much power you get, you will always feel empty. You just keep wanting more and more power.
A lot of people love to do affirmations first thing in the morning – to keep themselves feeling peppy and positive.
Stop bragging about your lack of sweat and effort in achieving your goals. Start bragging about how hard you work, how patient you've become.
I'm doing my best to mindfully raise my son to feel safe and encouraged to express himself.
It seems every morning I wake up to face a list of 20 things to do, with time only to do 10, and somehow I always wind up squishing in 30.
A soulmate is someone whom, when you meet, without thinking – without letting your neocortex play into the decision – you feel an instant familiarity, a sense of connection, a longing.
I believe we create a lot of problems in our relationships if we don't feel safe to talk about our feelings at the speed of life.
Babies choose to lackadaisically notice the quirkiest of details – unlike us grown ups, who choose instead to focus on what we believe is most essential to us. As a result, babies have a greater expanded consciousness than us grown-ups!
The best relationship is one that does not foster too much independence nor too much dependence, but exists in the healthy interdependence zone.
Basically, Aristotle believed that every time you behaved unkind and immorally – performing actions your soul was not proud of – you tarnished your soul. The worst shape your soul became in, the worst shape your mood and spirit.
Marriage counselors in particular all strongly recommend divorcees try to understand their role in a divorce before re-marrying. Statistics show if you re-marry before you've clearly seen things from the biter's point of view – you're re-bounded to fail again!
I believe a lot of what contributes to the sadness and downward-spiraling in our lives is a sense of hopelessness. We become resentful when circumstances aren't unfolding as we want, leading us to doubt whether we will ever get what we want.
I believe whoever has the most energy wins. You need energy to win at your relationship, win in your career, win as a parent, win at being your highest potential self.
Only allow yourself to think negative thoughts and/or complain about anything for three minutes, three times a day.
Cultivate the habit of zest. Purposefully seek out the beauty in the seemingly trivial. Especially in the trivial. The colors and shapes of the foods you eat. The shadows a vase makes on your table. The interesting faces of the people on the bus with you.
Basically, a bad breakup is never meant to teach you 'I'll never fall in love again.' It's meant to teach you 'Now I better know what makes for healthful, happy love – and thanks to this breakup I'm now better able to recognize it and snag it!'
If your partner is angry with you, recognize that his anger is a misdirected plea for love. Your partner's simply upset because he feels something you said or did was a sign of not loving him enough.
The next time you find yourself racing quickly down the street, know that you're not only running to your next appointment, you are literally running from contact with your truest feelings, deepest needs and most valuable insights.
Studies show when people yell, they get themselves even angrier. Interesting factoid: If you and/or your partner's heartbeat becomes higher than 100 beats per minute during an argument, you will not be able to fully understand/process what the other is saying.
Choose to focus your time, energy and conversation around people who inspire you, support you and help you to grow you into your happiest, strongest, wisest self.